White Board Chronicles

For better or for worse and resulting in uncountable eye rolls, this hangs in my kitchen near the refrigerator.  Briliant placement, if I do say so myself.

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The current state of affairs.

A dear friend with vision and moxxie inspired my Whiteboard.  I have long admired her so naturally I wanted emulate some her life hacks tactics.

At first the whiteboard was just for me.  My friend keeps hers in her private home office and uses it for methodical reminders to help her stay her course.  I should have truly emulated her.  She is amazing.  But I soon recognized my family’s need for reflection and future forward nuggets of focus and all hell broke loose: The Whiteboard Project took on a life of its own.

I am realizing containment and methodical patience with my Whiteboard may have been a better route.  Such is my pattern.  Alas, this is its inception.

(I did not photograph each board.  But I am on it now.)

Board #1:  Introduce the Concept

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Every Board after that:  Bribe my teens / young adults to participate.

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Input is input.  Money is always involved.

Quotes.  Goals. Inner drivers.  They all work.  Engagement is priceless.

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Yes.  I thrive on teaching moments.

No quote is too long in my book.  (eye roll after eye roll)

Maybe we are getting somewhere.  Lots of different penmanship on this one.

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We had a birthday.

The child whose birthday it wasn’t suggested the $20 memory.  They upped the ante.

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Then came shelter in place.  COVID-19, and TONS of screen time.  We watched sports and crime documentaries.  I set no parameters.  I am not looking for analysis.  Just going with it!

Does the Aaron Hernendaz Documentary on Netflix meet the goal of inspired learning.  Yes.  Watch it.  It isn’t easy – you’ve been warned.

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Lent.  Easter.  Promoting inside work.  Everyong needs gas $. Don’t judge.

Reflection??? What the hell?  There I go again.  I ask for much.

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They don’t know it, but the first one to write something meaningful (my discretion) gets $20.

And now this.  My poor naked whiteboard.  We’ll see.

I will be hanging one in my private office today.

 

Thank you. I love you.

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Happy 82nd to my father’s bride, my mother.  Quarantined in heaven because that is the state of things.  They slip out of their #stayinheaven order often to remind me of the love that Is. Today and all days I call on her essence to shine bright in me.

On April 9 I step into a rebirth on the birth anniversary of my fierce, yet gentle force of a Mother.

I never say ‘was’.  She is a living energy, a spirit recognisable in smiles, humor, breath-catching beauty, all twinkly eyes and daily expressions of faith – anywhere, everywhere.

What a beauty in every way.  How lucky am I to have such a Mother?

What a ting.  What a ting.  (Re: Hunters, Netflix – watch it!)

I love you .  Thank you.

Open Your Ear Hole – Morning Song

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Favorite Mug

The birds sing and caw, they chirp and twitter chattering a good morning song.  Some wail as if to say – “I am here” – others knock and pop their beaks hammer-like against the strong trunk of their home.  Still too, some sing and sing – lost in their own song.  Together, the symphony of now.

The slurp of my sip of coffee grown cold by seconds of wait.  The dull clank of my thick, sturdy, favorite Colorado mug.  The dance of the flame in my dusty mostly quiet candle.  The light snore of my beloved brown lab.

It is just me on my porch.

Isn’t it always just me – or just you? We interact and move about the symphony of our days.

We love and talk and worry and long to touch.  In the end isn’t is just us?  Go inside.  To your interior world.  Stay dancing on the brim of the outer, in the chirps of the birds, in the rustle and bustle of a long-slept partner awake and ready making their own coffee.

In the hearts longing for peace and good health for all.

In the desire to be God’s channel – a living breathing example of love and light – a path to what already is – in the climbing cresendo of birds with messages.

Listen to me.  I am here.

Is Kanye a Turkey?

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I only caught a glimpse of Kanye’s conversion as I walked through the kitchen while the evening news was playing. Some people are flat out interesting whether you actually interested in the content of their reality (show) or not.  The conversation about $170 Jesus is King hoodies and Kanye’s taking the stage with Joel Osteen could beg some SELF reflection, a question about how authentic your connection is to your internal King  or your hoodie graphic.  Maybe none of it matters to you and you are hungover with gratitude from a day of turkey and pie and family and friends.  I hope it’s the latter.

Kanye confessed his mental health issues when he disclosed his bipoloar diagnosis.  I admire his courage to SpeakUp.

His exhuberant profession of Christ allegiance could come from an authentic well of Holy Spirit also currented by his diagnosis.  If your hoodie professes Compassion and One Human Family and Kindness and Coexisence make sure you extend it to Him.  Capital ‘H’.  Or if you prefer lower case ‘h’ or any pronoun.  Or any living being.

Because then YOU are not a turkey.

As for Kanye, who knows?

You be the judge of that.  On second thought, don’t.

 

 

Birds, Rams, Two Coasts, and the Mind

Two big things happened this week in sports on oppostie coasts with roots in Richmond, Virginia. Read on for a common denominator you might not expect.

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The Seattle Seahawks took down the only undefeated team in the NFL, the San Fransisco 49er’s on Monday night in overtime.  Quarterback, Russell Wilson who is up for the league MVP led the charge.  He is from Richmond. He is my boyfriend.  I am a cougar.  My husband knows.

Can you blame me?  The term boyfriend is a euphemism for ‘I love people with big talent, big charimsa, big heart.’  I have lots of boyfriends, including my husband and Beth Risdon. 

Rams

The VCU Rams beat the LSU Tigers in basketball, 84 – 82 at home in Richmond Virginia.  How sweet it is.  Geaux on back to Weezi – Anna. The Division 1A Rams are really something.  They always come to play. 

One common element to these two victories is the Richmond connection.

The common demoninator as I see it, is:

Alex Peavey

Alex serves as the Team Consultant & Mindfulness Coach for VCU Men’s Basketball, as well as a number of other college and professional athletes across the country.  He gave  Russell Wilson his mindfulness start in high school and they remain good friends today.

Common Denominator = Mindfulness Practice, delivered by beloved hometown expert.

Mindfulness practice focuses the mind on the present moment, clearing the noise of unecessary distraction. It works on the field, on the court, in the board room, in the mind to create clarity and flex the mental muscle.

Alex is also the Mindfulness Coach for the Cameron K. Gallagher Foundation.

Mindfulness practice works to change the relationship to stress in life and in individuals too. To learn more, email clairnorman@ckgfoundation.org.

 

My Top 3 Podcasts This Week

I am a podcast advocate.  What a marvelous opportunity to listen to engaging dialogue between respected thought leaders and doers in life on topics you choose.  As the listener from afar, in the car, during a long run, or while making your way from one place to another in any fashion. You can try on ideas for size and discern your relationship to the concepts all from the privacy of your own earbuds.  If you connect and disconnect from the flow because of the pesky wandering mind, you have the option to rewind and catch the point a second (or third) time.  It’s like graduate work toward personal professional certification in your life.  You are the advisor.  You build the curriculum. You change teachers at will and most of the time it is free.

score. Score. SCORE.

I thoroughly enjoyed these three.  I hope you will too.

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Rich Roll with Chase Jarvis.  Creativity is your birthright. Listen here.

Dan Harris with Kristin Neff, PhD. Kryptonite for the Inner Self Critic. Listen here.

Peter Attia, MD with Jason Fried on optimizing efficiency and work-life balance. Listen here.

Happy listening.  Happy living.

 

 

 

Fifteen Fatherless Years

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Today is fifteen years since my sister called me and asked if Mike was home.

Her next statement was: “Dad died today.” He was 66 and in perfectly good health.  A slender and active, golf obsessed, 8-year widower.

This is the call nobody wants.  Out of the blue.  No warning.  It happened in his parked car while running a simple errand. Massive MI. Myocardial infarction.  I like to think his heart was pushed beyond capacity.  It couldn’t bear the weight of love; given and received, the miss of his bride, and a life so well lived.

My Dad supported a family of eight and bore the grief of losing their infant son, the seventh of their  seven children.  Life was not easy for him but it was good.  He puffed his chest with pride at the many, many dance recitals, sporting events, school honors assemblies, high school and college graduations and the birth of eleven of their nineteen grandchildren.  His bride saw one, our beloved Andrew.  My parents ran a tight ship with accountabilities and consequences.

His most proud moment was every single time he walked into a room with my Mother. Peacock proud of her beauty, her soul and her character.  She was his queen.

He was not perfect.  Life pressed hard on this man with many responsibilities.   Sometimes unpleasant, his compass stayed calibrated.  God first.  Then family. Then work.  Everything else will work out.

Two days before his sudden death, I asked him how he was doing.  He said: “Clair, I have no problems.”  I was struck at his uncomplicated view on his sometimes complicated life.

I am utterly grateful for the 34 years I had my Dad around.

As for the fifteen years since, well, for him I am living a life full of love.

Hopefully with many years to go.  However, heaven will be quite a homecoming.

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My Nicholas. My Dad. Our Cameron.