Why is it that whenever anyone is being self-deprecating about being selfish, they bring a pig into? Here’s what I heard this week:
I am a selfish pig, I am glad my kids are going back to school. (Colorado Athlete Extraordinaire)
I was out mountain biking and was late picking up my daughter from softball. I am a selfish pig. (Virginia Nut Bag)
I did not go meet my son’s teacher because I had an appointment for my highlights. What a selfish pig, I am. (Richmond Beauty)
If you look closely however, the association with selfishness might make a pig proud.
I saw this great article
in the paper this morning: Mother’s self-care helps the whole family.
After receiving sage advice from her mother, Mia Redrick decided to commit to dating herself, spending 90 minutes to 2 hours every week to stay connected to who she is – some activities include having coffee or tea alone at a local coffee shop or book store or going for a walk. After yourself, the article goes on to say – date your spouse and our children on a regular basis. In that order.
When a Mom has time to herself… she returns from that time alone with a level of appreciation for her children and her spouse. It improves her relationships.
I don’t know about you, but I do try to arrange my time to train for races or practice yoga or ride my bike around my family’s schedule. But sometimes it isn’t possible. It’s okay to leave the nest and go to a yoga class. It’s okay to go for a run when everyone is home and awake. One of my favorite things to do with my husband is to go for a long run somewhere without the kids. We reconnect and serve ourselves at the same time. When we return home, lo and behold! – the house is still standing and we are nicer. And the children are not plotting emancipation. They are proud. It’s good for your children to see you living with passion and engaging in healthy pursuits.
And there is still time for this:
For me a lot of it is because of this:
(I LOVE my yoga)